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Game Rules for Life--10 Year Anniversary of My First Book
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Written by Doug Kelley on March 10, 2010, 01:57:15 AM

The Game Rules for LifeIt's hard to believe that 10 years this month has passed since I wrote and published my first book, The Game Rules for Life. Since that time, I have grown considerably as a person and published several more books and courses. And I have several more in the works. 

I wrote Game Rules at a time when I was just coming out of an alcoholic marriage as well as leaving Jehovah's Witnesses, the religion in which I was born and raised. It is also the religion in which I served as an elder for seven years and was excommunicated from in August 1999 for leaving my now late alcoholic wife and remarrying. It was a tumultuous time in my life and led to several years of existential crises. However, I feel that I emerged much better than before and in a world that was no longer limited to religious superstition, i.e., demons, "sex is bad," and that God is going to destroy the world (except for JW's) very soon. I am now considered an apostate (heretic) by all those that I once knew and loved--including my family. I have honored their wishes and had no contact with them since 1999. These years were by far the most difficult of my life, but at the same time, they were also the years in which I grew the most (and the fastest).

When I wrote the book, I still believed in a biblically based God (which is evident in the writing). As with so many before me, I tried to make some sense out of why I felt God had abandoned me in my hour of need after 40 years as a "faithful servant." Of course, there is no rational sense to be made of this and as the following couple of years passed, I progressed through Deism and finally to Agnosticism, where I remain today. And I have no good reason to budge.

So why am I writing about this in my paranormal blog? For several reasons. First off, it is important to remember that we are people first and researchers second. We all have our sad stories to tell, and by saying this I do not mean to take anything away from those painful times. These sad and painful times are part of our unique human experience. They carry deep meaning for us personally. The fact that we consider them to be sad and painful separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

Secondly, the dark times that we experience can fuel our drive to find and understand the answer to the "why" questions; for example, why must we go through such difficulties at times? This, in turn, can take us down the path of wonderment and fascination with the Grand Scheme of Things including all things mysterious and unexplained. It is our passion borne from the enlightenment that comes from growing though difficulties that can allow us to achieve greatness in our research and better equip us to find meaningful answers. How so? Because as we grow, we learn to stand strong and tall; difficulties that at one time floored us no longer affect us adversely. This leads to a more rational and reasonable disposition that is not easily affected by dramatic claims of paranormal activity or irrational fears of the same. Knowledge cancels fear. In short, our life experiences can make us much better researchers--if we choose to apply all that we've learned from life to our research.

As you conduct your research and investigations, never forget that we do so ultimately to better understand the human condition. Use your unique life experiences and talents to bring greatness to the field of anomalous research!

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Happy anniversary, Doug! May you have many, many more and write lots of books!


by Sharon K. West on March 10, 2010, 06:40:48 PM


Thank you for sharing your story and your book. Happy Anniversary, and may your next ten bring you as much wisdom as the last ten.

by Brian Parsons on March 10, 2010, 10:06:14 PM

Hey Doug,

Happy anniversary ! 

Life itself can be a mysterious journey, we reflect back on our personal 'trials & tribulations' and often see we have grown the most in the hardest of times.

I think its the contrasts of Life that teahc us, we need to experience the 'lows' to truly appreciate the 'highs.'

I bet you have plenty more books to come yet !! 

Cheers & Congrads!


by Ingrid Irwin on March 20, 2010, 03:08:14 AM

Hi Doug,

Happy Anniversary! 

Looking forward to downloading and reading your first book...and all the ones that will follow.


by Sherry McDonald on April 30, 2010, 01:03:57 AM
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Doug is an accomplished speaker, trainer, coach, and author of six published books, and numerous eBooks and articles in the field of human development, leadership, management, and relationships. This is all in addition to his dedicated work in the anomalous research field.

In an effort to further general education and professionalism in the paranormal field, Doug founded ParaNexus, a professional association of paranormal and anomalous researchers, in early 2008 along with his close friend and colleague, Jari Mikkola. In the fall of 2007, he completed the ParaNexus Paranormal Investigator Certification Course (CPI), a cutting-edge home study course designed to train researchers to be professional and competent investigators of anomalous phenomena. A year later, he completed the ParaNexus Leading Paranormal Investigator Certification Course (CLPI), a comprehensive leadership and management course for anomalous research group founders.

Doug has an open mind and a deep belief in the indomitable power of the human spirit. His greatest area of interest and research in the paranormal field is the impact that a person's unique socio-religious and cultural beliefs have on the type and extent of any paranormal activity experienced by the individual. Doug is also a certified Hypnotist, and for two years, co-operated a hypnosis center in Port Charlotte, Florida along with his best friend and wife, Tracy. He uses hypnosis to conduct research into the alien abduction phenomena. Doug holds a degree in electronics and an Advanced SCUBA diving certification.

Doug is the host of ParaNexus Universe Radio, has spoken to many groups in the paranormal field, has appeared on several radio programs, and is available for media interviews, paranormal talk shows, documentaries, and speaking to groups about paranormal topics. Doug may be contacted via, by email at, or by phone at 941-740-2900.

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